When you are welcomed into a person’s home, you hope you’ll catch a whiff of who they are. You want to understand their likes, dislikes, views and overall approach to life and hope that it chimes comfortably with the person themselves. Of course, you want to know what it looks like – but once you’ve got over that, your biggest impression will be how it feels.
Conversely – when you welcome someone into your home – you are showing them a visual and very personal manifestation of who you are. Or you should be, because your home should be your story teller – the weaver of the red thread and a marker of you and yours.
You must be aware of your own stylistic roots – who you are and who, and what, has influenced you. Remember what shaped and excited you as a child, as much as your own adventures as an adult. My childhood home felt like home partly because our family pets were buried under the apple tree and it gave me a great sense of place. This translates into my adult homes in that wild orchard-like gardens and animals are always there.
When creating your own home, it’s super important to forget/positively ignore what anyone else thinks you should do. Your mother, best friend, monthly interiors magazine all have no idea of that particularly unique thread that you need. They are looking at your home from their own perspective of you or in the case of some media, what they want you to buy to neatly fit in with this seasons trends.
So, how do you do it? And how do you stop yourself ‘decorating’ within the whims and constraints of current trends?
Before you start, you need to know what fills you up and what brings you down (man). What sparks joy and what depresses you. Red will never find its way into my home and I personally struggle with the concept of super-spec’d kitchens. Plus, I don’t own a telly. I do love ephemera, sheepskins, curtain-free windows and dogs, and always have. Some, or all of these, may make you break into a cold sweat. Just remember, that one’s approach to creating your home is not better taste or on trend more than someone else’s (and who cares anyway).
I often visit or read about the homes and creative spaces of thinkers, designers and makers who emphatically chose a very personal way of living. I may not like their choices or their aesthetic leanings, but it is encouraging to understand the freedom they had from creating their own visual world. It doesn’t mean you should replicate what they do, rather give yourself the thumbs-up if you dive head first into your own personal passions.
Creating something that is a visual curation of what you want your home to be, is a great way to begin.
And where you start is with a Storyboard - not a Pinterest/on-line image board – rather a cut-out and keep ‘how do I want to live in my home and how do I want it to feel’ storyboard.
Like all simple and pure creative processes you just need a really large piece/roll of card, glue/tape, a stack of printed material, some writing tools and scissors.
Pull out images, words, and colours from the magazines, catalogues, brochures, tickets, postcards from exhibitions, poems, paint charts - anything that speak to you. Print off anything you’ve stored on your phone or computer too. Note that this storyboard isn’t the place to create a shopping list of things you’d like to buy – you can do that later. Try not to use images of anything that’s on-trend – because what comes in, goes out – I’m talking to you dark-blue-kitchen-with-a-Carrera-marble-worktop-and-brass-handles…
Then create a visual board of what home is to you - something that shows an outward expression of what it should feel like. Cut things out, move them around and paste a collage together. You can lay it out and take pictures with your phone and move images around before you finally commit. Write on it if you want to. Add some colour swatches – whatever it is that makes this board a representation of your home.
Once you have done this, you’ll very clearly see a story emerging. Involve everyone in your home in this process. It isn’t easy, but it is worth it.
I think that this is the very best place to start understanding how to create a home that reflects you. Put it somewhere you can see it every day. Live with it, change it, but take your time to know that it’s you.
Because creating a personalised space isn’t a race, it’s your home.